Wednesday, July 25, 2007


I could say a lot of things about life today...I could write about the Stray showing up, or I could write about the funeral. I could write about how I'm unhappy with our relationship, with how things are getting better at such a horribly slow pace, at how he doesn't appreciate how fantastically I have handled his godawful behavior. I could write about Mr. Junky's great big pity party that he had this morning and how I told him he needed to think about all the things that he should be grateful for. Instead, I'll write about all the things that I have to be grateful for.

1. I am so grateful that we have another day together, and that we've got tomorrow to look forward to.

2. I'm grateful for my wonderful friends, both electronic and real.

3. I'm grateful that Long Vowels is coming over next week! And that I might get to see Question Air! Woohoo!

4. I'm grateful for the things he whispered to me before I left for the funeral.

5. I'm glad to have had cabbage for dinner. I love cabbage.

6. I'm grateful that my job is still awesome, and my coworkers are funny and smart and kind people that I look forward to seeing every day.

7. There's a meeting tomorrow, and I look forward to it as much as I look forward to anything in my life. We're going out for coffee afterwards. I think it will be fun.

(My husband asked me if he should come. I said, "No," but I wonder if I should have said, "Yes." Maybe he could make friends with folks in recovery? Maybe I shouldn't plan schemes to get his dumb ass in meetings? Maybe if he makes any kind of move to participate in N.A. in any way, even to skip the meeting to come out for coffee afterwards, I should encourage it? Maybe it's not my bucket of shit? Chloe, maybe we can arrange a play date?! They don't like the same drugs, anyway, so it wouldn't even be scary!)

8. I'm grateful that lots and lots of folks showed up for my friend's wife's funeral. It was a lovely service, and I'm glad I went and was able to give him a big hug.

9. I'm grateful for the great big bad pit bull that won't stop stomping on my back while I lie here typing. Especially, I am grateful for her silly feet.

10. I'm glad that the life I have, even with all its mess and burdens and complications, is the life I've chosen...from bottom to top, this is my world, my construction.

11. I'm glad that I'm healthy and pretty and smart.

12. I'm glad that the bed is big, but not too big.

13. I'm so looking forward to when he comes to bed with me and we hold each other close.

14. I'm lucky to have a good family.

15. There are children in my life that are beautiful and give me something to look forward to.

16. I own a very cool home.

17. I like the color of my hair.

18. I like the color of my husband's hair, and also the way it smells, and the way it feels in my hands.

19. I'm glad I'm a good writer, and I'm glad my husband is a wonderful artist. I'm glad we can be creative together.

20. I'm glad that this year, I've managed to make my entire living off of writing.

21. I'm grateful and proud that I've been able to support myself, pay my mortgage, and take care of things while he's been out of work.

22. I'm glad that I'm still growing, learning, and surviving through one of the hardest times I've ever known.


Anonymous said...

I am grateful that you are my friend, and that you come up with wonderful posts, and that I too am going to make a list of things I am grateful for, it's easy to get caught up in all the things that suck, and I think each and everyone of us should sit down and write out the things we are grateful for. I bet you felt amazing afterwards. Thank you my friend!

Wayward Son said...

I bet somebody went to bed happy tonight.

Chloe said...

My sponsor has been telling me to do one of those for months. You may have inspired me.
A play date..that's great. That's almost exactly what it would be! He would have to patient with mine though since they didn't share the same drug of choice..heroin snob! :)
About could always bribe him to the meeting knowing that the best Chloe coffee will be there! (Don't know if we're making the after meeting get together or not). I'll have had way to much coffee by then.

DirtyBitchSociety said...

This is a good thing. More often than not, people don't appreciate what they have...till it's gone.