Friday, April 20, 2007

OK, Virginia Tech

Alright, it's time for me to post my obligatory two cents about the killings.

Every time one of these things happen, I can't help but think how fortunate I am that I didn't grow up to be a school shooter. There was a time in my life when I don't think I was too far away from it. When I was in high school, especially in freshman and sophomore years, I was lonely. I'd go through entire days and not say a word to anyone. I'd come home, and my parents would criticize me and question why I wasn't making friends.

I'm not sure why I wasn't making friends. I was pretty, smart, and I'd come from a place where I'd been popular. I'd been the captain of the cheerleading squad in the town where I went to middle school...but when my family relocated for me to go to high school because of my father's job, something inside of me changed, and it's never been quite the same.

I am glad my parents moved...I got a better education, and I'm a better person for it. However, I think if they hadn't moved, I would have taken a much more traditional path in my life. I would have married a nice local boy, lived near my family, probably taught high school English and gone to church with my mother every weekend. I'd probably have a baby already.

When I heard about the Virginia Tech killings and saw the video, I can't help but feel the rage that this kid is expressing. I remember hating everyone...HATING them. If I'd been a little less attractive, male, a little less intelligent, and had access to guns, I might have been one of those guys. It was an awful feeling--spending every day, alone. Looking at all the people and their social circles and feeling so very much outside of everything.

Being that kind of outsider does give you a special view on the situation you're in. You see people's falsity, their hypocrisy, and their pettiness in a way that you just can't when you're inside. Combine that enhanced ability to see people's ugliness with the deep pain of feeling lonely or being teased for being different, and a rage grows inside of you that's pretty awful.

There are people who teased me that I still can't forgive--2 boys in particular come to mine. If I saw them today, more than 10 years later, I'd still not be able to be civil to them. They were really awful to me, and it reaffirmed everything that I believed about the kids in my high school--they were snobby, superficial, wealthy, and judgmental. These 2 boys mocked my clothes, my drug use, and my shyness. There were times when I could have killed them I hated them so much.

I'm sorry for the families of the kids who died in the massacre, and I'm especially sorry for the kids who were just living their lives, going to class, and trying to do the best they could to get by. But I'm also sorry for and the pain and rage he must have felt to do what he did. I'm sorry that we live in a world where people have to experience such pain.

1 comment:


Thank you. Finally someone else who can somewhat sense some of the pain this kid was feeling. Sometimes I think if onlY one person would have REALLY TRIED to get him to open up this could have been prevented. One person could have changed SEUNG HUI CHO'S life but nobody thought he was worth the bother. So sad to think that just because he was from another country the american people couldn't accept him and show a little respect. Nobody knows what it was like to be him for a day. he was a human the same as everyone else yet he wasn't treated that way, and as far as his family not getting his ring or diploma well thats just another stupid american way. The people tht bullied him i'm sure were mostly americans and even though what he did was wrong, SEUNG HUI CHO was a succesful student that tried.