Thursday, August 9, 2007

Sorry.

First phone call:

"I love you."

"I love, you, too."

"What are you doing?"

"Working."

"When are you coming home?"

"Later. After my meeting."

"OK. I love you."

Second phone call:

"I'm sorry I'm a terrible husband."

"You're not a terrible husband." (I think: You're a C- husband. A terrible husband is an F husband.)

"I wish I could be better."

"It's ok."

"I love you."

"I love you, too."

"What are you doing?"

"Writing."

"When are you coming home?"

"After my meeting."

"I love you."

It's an experiment I'm doing, and maybe it's working, kind of. I didn't call him. I didn't fight with him after last night's little scene. I came to work. I'm doing my thing. I'm FINE.

If I let him work it out on his own, he works it out on his own. If I rant and explain and complain and cry, he gets defensive and never gets it. It's kind of like magic. I should write a book about mind control. I'm performing some kind of husband-curing hypnosis.

7 comments:

amanda said...

I use your new method myself when my husband and I argue. It seems to be rather efficient. He knows how vocal I am about my problems; so, if i go do my own thing instead of ranting and raving he is somewhat mystified.

kristi said...

I came home with pizza today and my husband bitched 'cause I got breadstix too (I had a q-pon and me and the kids love breadstix). I am tired after only about 4 hours of sleep. I went in the bedroom and had a good cry and he came in there saying, "Why are you crying over my comment on the breadstix?" I told him , "Well, it's not that..but I wanted to do something nice and you just ruined it. You always ruin it." Now I am off to take a jacuzzi bath. I need it! I wanted to go have a good cry alone but he found me crying and then acted like I was a dumbass for being upset. Some days I feel like I can't win.

sKILLz said...

We know our lovers better than they know themselves. We know what works and what doesnt.
So if what your doing is working stick with it.
I hope you had a good night @ your meeting.

Stepbackjack said...

Once I did that and the whole kitchen was cleaned when I got home. He thought I was really, really mad. Ha! Then I figured that ranting a raving was the only way he would hear me. When I was quiet, that was when he listened.

Married to My Ex

Wayward Son said...

Mind Control! You crack me up girl.

WS

Married to an Addict said...

Hah, I have learned that technique too. I just say something like "I don't care, whatever." And then go do my own thing. He usually knows I'm mad without me having to say it right out and explain every fricken' feeling. It is like magic.

sweetlu said...

you should check out this ny times article

http://www.nytimes.com/2006/06/25/fashion/25love.html?ex=1186891200&en=5f5874a5d18b6008&ei=5070

its somewhat similar to your approach