Thursday, August 16, 2007

Ahhh.

I often wish that the world could be just us, alone, with no jobs, no bills, no worries. We'd do well in the Garden of Eden. We'd need a bunch of pencils and paper and a couple of dogs and cats, and maybe some fruit or blue cheese. It would be nice to be able to order a pizza now and then.

An Al-Anon Reminder from MSB that helped me very much yesterday:
Unless I have deliberately decided that my relationship with my spouse has no further value in my life, I would do well to consider the long-range benefits of quiet acceptance in times of stress.
Quiet acceptance...

Quiet acceptance for a while felt like defeat, but I'm learning that it's different. It's not accepting something that is unacceptable. It's accepting the place where we are, comfortable or uncomfortable, with love and hope.

And it works...quiet acceptance got me a lot more than I had hoped for last night. I got the answers I needed and the understanding that the answers I needed were going to come from myself and not from my husband. I got to lie in the arms of the man I love. I felt better, quickly.

Today, instead of planning a llama farm away from my man, I'm going to think about Eden, with him.

3 comments:

Stepbackjack said...

The simplest words are some of the hardest concepts to grasp (like detachment, love with detachment, quiet acceptance). Once we learn the meanings it is almost like an art. Can we make life imitate art or vice versa? I am thinking of you and wish you and your man well.

Married to My Ex

Madness (JAA) said...

Msb is often my voice of reason. She's a keeper that woman.
Peace,
Scout

Helen said...

"Unless I have deliberately decided that my relationship with my spouse has no further value in my life, I would do well to consider the long-range benefits of quiet acceptance in times of stress."
Great! A good one to remember, certainly!
Peace.............